Boomerang Kids: How to Set Boundaries When Your Adult Child Moves Back Home
In today’s episode of Shit Your Teenagers Won’t Tell You, hosts Cathy Chen and Meredith Herrera tackle the growing reality of “boomerang kids”—young adults who return home after college and struggle to relaunch into independence. Cathy and Meredith unpack the emotional tug-of-war parents face as they try to be supportive without enabling, especially in today’s challenging economic and digital job landscape. From setting clear financial expectations and timelines to redefining household responsibilities, they explore how parents can encourage growth without making home life too comfortable. This episode offers candid insight into drawing the line between support and stagnation, and how honest communication and smart boundaries can help a temporary return home stay just that: temporary.
Key Points From This Episode:
[0:00:50] Today’s topic of conversation: The Boomerang Effect.
[0:01:50] A High School Cheer by Cathy Chen.
[0:02:30] Why this is happening now, more than ever before.
[0:04:10] The proverbial “rock and a hard place” for parents.
[0:05:50] Turning the dial up on the home discomfort.
[0:07:40] How the economy and job market are affecting our post-college kids.
[0:09:30] The parent strategy: reset conversations, an established timeline, and boundaries.
[0:13:00] The “real life” Wrinkle and how to navigate gaining professional skills in this market.
[0:18:30 Parents fearing the complacency.
[0:20:00] The lever for parents: financial control.
[0:21:25] Meredith shares her thoughts on the difference between support and enabling.
[0:22:55] What the bottom line looks like.
[0:23:20] The difference between a launched kid at home and a boomerang kid.
[0:25:30] Get those boomerangs out there!
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